"My husband didn't want me to wear any black hairstyles. Nicole Kidman was his standard of beauty." — Rachel Dolezal

I've never been fully transparent or an open book, even to those you'd call close friends.

I think there's definitely a stereotype of white privilege, and that stereotype gets expanded to mean rich, not oppressed, not suffering, et cetera. And yes, it's a misperception.

Have I had experiences by other people identifying me as black and behaving towards me as black? Yes. Just for as long as maybe somebody who was born categorised as black? No.

I do wish I could have given myself permission to really name and own the me of me earlier in life.