"I've never been fully transparent or an open book, even to those you'd call close friends." — Rachel Dolezal

I think there's definitely a stereotype of white privilege, and that stereotype gets expanded to mean rich, not oppressed, not suffering, et cetera. And yes, it's a misperception.

Have I had experiences by other people identifying me as black and behaving towards me as black? Yes. Just for as long as maybe somebody who was born categorised as black? No.

My husband didn't want me to wear any black hairstyles. Nicole Kidman was his standard of beauty.

I do wish I could have given myself permission to really name and own the me of me earlier in life.