Emily V. Gordon

In some cases, newlyweds want so badly for things to be perfect that they ignore warning signs, both in themselves and each other.

Sometimes new spouses don't fully process the commitment they've made until after the deal is done, and then they panic.

Balanced, passionate, grounded people are the ones whose careers are ultimately the most successful.

Sacrificing your relationship for your career sounds noble and romantic from the outside, but the reality is that it can create a pattern of self-destruction that will ultimately burn you out on the career you've worked so hard to build. It's a trap and, for some, an easy way out of having to maintain relationships under stress.

You're not a victim of your divorce. What you decide to do with yourself and your personal life after your marriage ends is your decision, and completely under your control.

Some divorcees turn their pain inward. They brood, and they grieve for a long time, always wondering if they could have done something differently to keep this from happening. They make every problem in their relationship into something they could have prevented.